Should I Be Mad If My Best Friend Forgot My Birthday?

Birthdays come once a year and most of us look forward to this day. So, when your best friend forgets about that special day, it can make you upset. But it might be better to change how you think about and react to being forgotten. There are a few simple but effective action steps that you can take to gain a better response to this. 1. Consider Your Friend and Friendship Just because your best friend forgot your birthday doesn’t mean that he or she doesn’t care. Your friend may not care to celebrate birthdays in general. If they’re going through a hard time, then this could be a legitimate reason why they forgot your special day. You may want to reach out and see how your friend is doing rather than react in anger. 2. Consider Your Point of View Often a missed birthday is not in and of itself a major deal but can show you how much your friend hasn’t been there for other events. If this is a one-time event and your friend is going through a rough time, you may simply want to forget that it was missed. 3. Resolving the Conflict • Arrange a personal meeting to talk about it. • Remind her that you recently had a birthday and that you were hurt that she didn’t notice or reach out to you. • Finish up your statement by saying that you’d like your relationship to be different in the future. • See how she responds. If she really is a good friend, then her response may surprise you.