While some have a great relationship with their mother-in-law, this is a relationship where boundaries are important. Moms are usually involved in their children’s life but it can be hard to let the reigns go once their child is grown and married. In some cases, it may not even be conscious that they’re still trying to butt in. When this happens, how do you firmly but lovingly set that boundary? Take the time to calmly point out the situation. Keep in mind that mother-in-law actions are usually coming from a good place. When you approach your mother-in-law, make sure that you do so from a positive place. At the same time, recognize that no matter how gentle you talk with her, she’s probably going to have some hurt feelings. Start the Conversation 1. Start with a compliment Take a deep breath, and then let her know that you appreciate how much she cares. 2. Note the Downsides of Her Interventions Often finding out how you are perceived makes people change how their opinion and view. 3. Give Specific Examples Think of specific times and instances when she walked into your marriage. 4. State Your Desire for the Future You have to be firm in your wishes. This is the key to making your entire conversation stick. 5. Stand Your Ground Continue standing your ground but say that you hope she respects you and your partner enough to listen. 6. Remind Her of Your Conversation Provide a gentle reminder that this is your marriage. Now that you have the steps needed to navigate this conversation, you’re ready to get started.