How Do You Politely Ask For A Phone Call?

Let’s face it, phone calls have become more and more outdated over the years. People don’t use them at the same frequency it was about 20 years ago, and that’s due to the evolution of technology.

Nowadays, people mostly use other means, like emails in the business environment, and text messages or instant messaging for personal matters.

Phone calls tend to serve specific purposes, but if you know how to ask for it, you can get an important or interesting person to call you – or to allow you to call them.

How To Ask For A Phone Call

  1. Give people a concrete and honest reason.
  2. Think about the necessities of other people.
  3. Use the right timing.
  4. Ask yourself if that’s the right person.
  5. Always be friendly.
  6. Face rejection, but insist (up to a point).
  7. Don’t forget to give thanks.

Some general rules can apply to any type of situation to ask for something. That means you can use these rules to ask someone for a favor or to call you. This can be used in a business context, or even in a more private or personal context.

1. Give people a concrete and honest reason

The number one rule.

According to a study performed at Harvard in 1978 by Ellen Langer, it’s more probable that you get something from someone when you give them a reason.

A volunteer had to get close to someone that needed to use a photocopier and ask them to use the machine in the first place. Sometimes, the volunteer had to give a reason, while sometimes don’t.

The study showed that more than 90% of people gave up their place when they were given a reason, even when that reason was ridiculous.

2. Think about the necessities of other people

Remember that people may have reasons for not to do us a specific favor – like calling us – so it’s very important to previously know those reasons if it’s possible for you.

This point leads us to another important rule…

3. Use the right timing

Please, never ask people to call you when they are in a hurry or if they have a problem.

For example, if you want that someone lends you money, don’t ask them for that kind of favor if you know they were recently in a hard-economic situation – and don’t ask them for a call if you know their house just caught fire!

4. Ask yourself if that’s the right person

If you want someone to call you, it’s important to be sure that he/she is the right person. When it regards business, will you try to speak about a service you want to offer to a company, with the sales manager?

5. Always be friendly

The best method you can use to be a gentle person, in this case, is to highlight positive features about the person that you want to help you.

Make it clear for them that they are the only ones that could help you because they know, or they have exactly what you need, or that they are the best doing what you need.

Also, be sure of using the appropriate words like “would you mind if…” or “if it’s possible for you”. And don’t forget “please” and “thank you!”.

6. Face rejection, but insist (up to a point)

Never take rejection like something personal. Accept it like something that can happen in any aspect of life. Show you’re an understanding person and always leave open the possibility of trying again, on a better occasion.

7. Don’t forget to give thanks, but don’t be too sweet

Say thanks at least three times. If you ask someone for a minute of their valuable time:

  • Say thank you, when they give you that minute.
  • Say thank you, when that minute ends.
  • And say thanks, once you get that call.

If it’s at your fingertips, and depending on the type of people you are asking to call you, give them a kind of gift or present to let them know how you appreciate their attention.

If you were successful with your request, here is a guide on how to best start a phone call depending on the situation and here is how to end a phone call.

In a Business Context

Now that we have some guidelines on how to act, how do we apply these rules in a business context? Let’s see…

People in business are busy people, so you must make it easy for them. First, think on what is the best way and moment to reach them!

Would you try to talk to someone about having a telephone conversation if they’re on their way to a meeting? So, think about their necessities and use the correct timing.

It’s also very important that you cause a good impression on them, so be sure to use the proper clothing and the correct language. Trying to approach a business person in casual clothes might show a kind of rudeness from you. Usually, business people are more formal, so they want that you treat them in that way.

In the same line of thinking, use formal language. Use phrases like, “I was wondering if we could…” or “pardon me”.

Use proper grammar, speak clearly and with confidence, but use a soft tone to avoid sounding rude – also avoid reaching that person if there is a lot of noise around, so you don’t have to shout out!

Simply put, be gentle.

Another important aspect is to emphasize the intention of having a telephone conversation from the beginning. But to smooth things out, you can use the tactic of offering them something valuable they can obtain if they call you.

Don’t tell them you’ll get a benefit from them. You must sound like they need you, but make them think that they’re the people you need to talk to. Make them feel that they are important.

If you want to have a phone call to speak with them about a service that you want to offer, use something like:

“My name is XXX from XXX company and I think I have the way to solve this XXX problem you have on your business in the department you are managing. I was wondering if we could have a short telephone conversation in order to schedule a meeting when you have the time. Here is my business card with my contact information. Thank you!”

You can use the above sample even in other forms of communication, like when you want to leave a voice message.

TIP: Using business cards is a good idea to ease busy people to have your phone number, but avoid posting other contact information like emails. Try to force them to call you subtly.

And always remember, be concise. Don’t waste their time trying to give too many explanations; you want them to call you for that!

In case you got the agreement to call but they didn’t take the call, make sure to leave a message.

In a Private Context

The same rules, but this time, you can forget about too many formalities.

There are several reasons why you might want that a person you recently knew to call you, but usually it’s because you feel some kind of romantic attraction 😉

I can’t know if you’re a man that wants to call a woman, or if you’re a woman trying to say to that man that he can call you – although many women take that initiative, as you can see, things can change a bit here.

You must consider that there’s the possibility you’re allowed to call, instead of receiving a call; after all, the result will be the same in the end.

“Calling can sometimes appear aggressive or catch people off guard”, American psychotherapist Dr. Jean Mann says in her book “The Relationship Fix”.

As I said in the first lines of this article, these days, people prefer to text or “instant-text” before having a phone call. Text messages are more impersonal, and they also allow less compromise when you are knowing someone for the first time.

It doesn’t matter if you want to get involved in a romantic relationship or not, but the modern methods of communication allow it to be easier to break the ice. Of course, the first step is to have the ID or phone number of your target person – depending on the app you use, and in that case, you can apply the rules explained in this guide.

It’s also important to always remember that nowadays, phone calls are used for very specific reasons. Don’t try to call or wait for a phone call at any time, several times per day! And in case you missed a call, call them back!

Try to keep a simple conversation and when you feel it’s the right time, just say: “I’m going to call you” or “Call me!”.

In this context “being gentle” is to make the other person feel good, and to “give thanks” means to let the other person know that you enjoyed the conversation and that you expect to have more phone calls like it soon.

How to Ask Someone to Call You Back

To ask someone to call you back by mail or message to their voicemail, state the reason for the requested callback and a time when you are available. When requesting the callback during a call, do so directly in conjunction with a specific appointment.

By offering a specific proposed date for the telephone conversation, it becomes less likely that the other person will only make a loose promise such as: “I’ll call you soon.” You can also offer several days at the same time if you feel the other person is very busy and unlikely to accept every suggested appointment.

When you are addressing a voicemail, you must speak clearly and distinctly, have a polite tone, and for safety’s sake, state your telephone number again. Keep the message as short as possible and, if necessary, rehearse your text beforehand if it is a particularly important announcement.


Sophie Hammond is a journalist, psychologist, and freelance speechwriter for people in politics and business. She lives on the edge of the Rocky Mountains with her dog and a lifetime supply of books. When she’s not writing, she can be found wandering through nature or journaling at a coffee shop.

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